We’re heading out in the morning and as I wait for my little MP3 player to load some favorites, Jonathan has been playing piano and I’m thinking of the last time we (the family) all got together. It’s sort of sad, isn’t it, that sometimes the only things that bring us together in such a radical way are funerals or weddings? We all want to be there for each other, don’t we? I can’t imagine what it would be like if I didn’t call my sister pretty much anytime I thought about something she might like or my brother when I think of something funny I just have to share. Where’s the line? When does family get to be too big and we’re not really that close anymore? I’m not sure I want to know. I certainly have friends with whom I feel close like a sister and family members that seem like strangers. In some ways I envy Jonathan this weekend. He’ll get to ask all the questions to which I should already know the answer and it won’t be awkward; it will be caring. That’s just the sort of guy he is. I’m really glad for that.
Is it weird that I’m sort of looking forward to the memorial service for Aunt Mernie? She lived a long, wonderful, full life. She had adventures. She loved BIG. She hugged so hard she cracked ribs. That’s how I want to live. I’m excited to sit in the old Central Lutheran Church, where my grandma was baptized and confirmed and grew and lived and sing the hymns we both sang growing up. Yes I will cry, but they’ll be tears of thankfulness. I’m not sure if that happens much to other people, but sometimes I’m so struck by the beauty of something or how full my heart is that I just cry. I’ll cry if we sing “In the Garden” and I’ll cry if we sing “How Great Thou Art” and I’ll really cry if we sing some others, but I’d rather cry than not. I’m ever grateful for a family who taught me to sing-sing while washing the dishes, sing while folding the laundry or weeding the vegetable garden or mowing or just about anything. Sing because it’s in your soul. Sing because life is too beautiful to have anything but a song.
And now I sound like my sister (love you, Rache) and there’s only room for one contemplative heart in this great big amazing family of mine. (By the way, I’m totally amazed by you and proud of all you’re doing right now, Rachel.)